Is the fear for commitment one of the attractions of casual hookup? Everyone has different reasons. Although most college students are not going to consider getting married at this period of their life, the fact is 50% of them are from divorced families. The other 50% are probably going out with them. Such fact affects everyone.
Does this trend have different impact on males and females? This is hard to tell, but the funny thing is it has different impact on individuals as far as I know. Guys often get confused because in the last generation, their parents often know what role they will play when they are dating. He asks her out, pay the meal and take her home. Now, these rules no longer apply, but no one tells them what the new rules are.
Girls are also confused, but in different ways. Although they are encouraged to take the lead in dating, they are not afraid to ask a guy out, some of them are still afraid to bring up what they want, because it would make them look needy. They are told that women nowadays are independent and they don’t need men. They would mistake this sentence as men are not important, which would make them weak.
Besides, men and women are all surrounded by hookup cultures. Some of them may don’t want to be involved in such culture and they wish to find people like them with the same perspective. When we sense that our peer are behaving in a certain way, it can be hard to speak up loudly for our true self about what we actually want, that might be “I want a real relationship.”
What is the danger of chubby dating? There are risks for hooking up, because such relationship is not usually monogamous. When it is tagged with such a label as booty call, it might lead to a fake sense of security. People might be less cautious with such feelings. If people choose to engage in sexual activity with such feeling, bad things might happen. Many people think they can judge a person’s health status, personality and other characteristics by its’ appearance when it is only for casual hookup. However, as a matter of fact, the reality alters.
Emotionally speaking, such situation can be dangerous for both men and women. Normally, in a relationship, a person has different expectations for the other and it might lead to disappointment or even worse. On the other hand, some people might have such expectation because they think it is achievable. While the other part of the relationship might think totally different. That is the cause for a failure of a tinder hookup.
What is the solution? People should be aware that if you want a commitment, you can ask. We all have our needs and expressing our needs is a part of a healthy relationship, not a weakness. Only a small group of might get used to such a casual relationship and that’s all. In most circumstances, one part of such casual hookup relationship will end up with disappointment and confusion.